So very true. When I was a much younger man's child and knew everything, I can remember thinking, how can women be so very stupid, returning/staying with an abusive spouse over and over after such terrible actions.

Then I grew up and got a job working with an individual that told me ahead of my employment, *"I AM A TERRIBLE BOSS TO WORK FOR. Making matters worse, I am a Jewish South Africa"*
Well, I thought, that's refreshingly honest of him. Day One, I should have walked out. But I had a family that needed me to keep going. A family that depended on me being able to sustain the abusive, at times extremely toxic work environment.
It was then I made myself a promise to, NAVER AGAIN CRITICIZE ANOTHER WOMAN, for doing whatever she finds necessary to support her family.

Granted there are exceptions but my point is, "those who feels it knows it" all others are but observers in time having no context of what pain and sacrifice truly feels like.

Can we live risk free? I have been unable to but perhaps, I just happen to be one of the few children of lesser Gods.